Friday, 10 June 2016

Family Friendly Lakes Break:

                      How to do the Lakes in Family Friendly Style


If I had to choose a location for a family break in the UK, the Lakes would probably be it. Located just a couple of hours away from Manchester and Cheshire, it’s a whole new world of fresh air, sheep, gorgeous food and hotels and, of course, the beautiful lakes themselves. Everyone’s Lakes holiday is different; you can have action-packed adventures, boating and climbing, or you can sashay round sophisticated boutiques, eat in Michelin-starred restaurants and stay in five star spa hotels. When you have the kids (and possibly the dogs) to consider, it’s good to find a happy medium that keeps everyone happy. Here are my recommendations for great places to stay, eat and visit on a trip to the Lakes; do feel free to comment and add your own!

Where to Stay

There’s no shortage of choice when it comes to accommodation in the Lake District. From top hotels to farm B&B’s, from log cabins to glamping, there’s a whole host of options. When Lemon Pie Daddy and I go away by ourselves, we like to stay in a nice boutique hotel like The Cranleigh; however, when we have Amelia and Jack (Jack being the dog) we find that a cottage is a much better option. You have the freedom to do what you want, when you want; you can make your own breakfast in the morning, and in the evening, you can put your little ones to bed while you (Netflix and) chill. It’s also a good idea to have your own enclosed garden for the kids/dog to play in. We stayed at The Garden House in Coniston, a small but perfectly formed cottage with two bedrooms and a gorgeous garden for sitting out in (weather permitting, of course). You can find The Garden House and similar cottages on www.lakeland-cottage-company.co.uk.
                                

Where to Eat

The Lake District is home to a whole host of tempting eateries and it would be impossible to visit them all in one trip (although you could have fun trying!). You will find that most restaurants and cafes are concentrated in the bustling hubs of Bowness and Ambleside, although there are plenty of hidden gems that are worth seeking out. One of these is Chester’s by the River, a café and shop which is situated, as the name suggests, on a picturesque riverbank on the road from Coniston to Ambleside. A few things you should know before you visit:
1.     The menu is completely vegetarian. This wasn’t a problem for either of us, but if you turn up expecting a full English, you may be disappointed.
2.     You can’t have a sandwich in the café. Sandwiches are only available from the takeaway sandwich bar. I have no idea why they have this rule but it doesn’t seem to affect their popularity. Which brings me on to my next point:
3.     It gets very, very busy at lunchtime, so be prepared to wait for a table. We waited about ten minutes, but we were lucky; the people behind us were waiting for half an hour.
4.     If you can get past all this, you will be rewarded with a lovely, light-filled café, serving seriously delicious food, good coffee and amazing cakes. There’s also a shop selling lots of gorgeous (but expensive) paraphernalia, from books and toys to cards and gifts to Matt and Nat “vegan” handbags (surprisingly good pleather; had me fooled). An excellent option on a sunny day would be to visit the sandwich and cake bar and curate the perfect picnic.


My favourite family-friendly restaurant in the Lakes is Fat Olives in Bowness. The menu is extensive and caters for every preference, the staff are welcoming, everything is fresh and beautifully presented and the place just has a lovely ambience. There’s a children’s menu which offers quality, fresh food for your little ones; no chicken nuggets or baked beans here.

And if you’re after an authentic, old-fashioned Italian restaurant where children are welcomed and fussed over, then head to Villa Positano and do what we did; order the (adult-sized) melon starter for your toddler. It’ll go down a treat and you’ll be able to enjoy your own starters and mains without using up a whole box of breadsticks and a bag of Babybels. We enjoyed steak (Jon) and sea bass (moi) while Millie tucked into pizza followed by ice-cream. Everyone was happy- and not a children’s menu in sight. 

                                      

What to Do

There’s so much to do as a family in the Lakes, although on this particular trip we were sadly limited by the inclement weather. On previous trips we have enjoyed days out at places such as South Lakes Animal Park, which is awesome, and we would have loved to go to Brockhole Nature Reserve- maybe next time!
The World of Beatrix Potter in Bowness-on-Windermere is just made for a rainy day (although you should still go if it’s sunny) You and your littles will have endless fun spotting all your favourite Beatrix Potter characters as you walk round the exhibitions. And needless to say there’s an old-fashioned tea room and expensive, but unavoidable, gift shop for your enjoyment.


Clambering onto a boat of some kind is a must when in the Lakes- you can experience anything you like from a kayak to a huge steamer. We did a tour of Lake Consiton on the beautiful Royal Gondola (see below). But even without going on a boat, walking around Lake Windermere, eating ice cream and making friends with the swans and ducks is a pleasure.

Finally, the teeny-tiny village of Grasmere is often overlooked by visitors to the Lake District, but I’d highly recommend it for an afternoon of joyful, aimless pottering. There are cute shops, pretty gardens to walk round, nice cafes to stop at and the famous historic Grasmere gingerbread shop.
If you have been up to the Lakes recently and done something I haven’t mentioned, please do let me know- I’d love some new ideas for next time!

Friday, 6 May 2016

Monday, 28 March 2016

10 Common Misconceptions about Stay at Home and Part-Time Working Mothers


To work or not to work? It's the eternal question that tortures every new mother and mother-to-be, and sadly, there is no easy answer. I know mothers who work and miss their children; I know mothers who stay at home and feel that the reality doesn't match the dream. I work part time and , far from feeling that I have the perfect balance; I just feel doubly crap- like I have sacrificed my career but am still very far from being the perfect wife and mother. Everyone has their own point of view, but from where I stand, there are a few misconceptions I encounter time and time again. I'd love to hear from you if you have your own to add!



10 Common Misconceptions about Stay at Home/Part-Time Working Mothers

 

 

·       We spend our days swanning around Harvey Nichols with our husband’s credit cards.

If we’re lucky, we might get the occasional hour swanning around Primark with (our own) credit cards. Then, when we get to the till and are told we’ve spent £80, frantically try to mentally calculate the credit card bill that will be landing on our mats in due course.

 

·       We don’t care about our jobs anymore.

When you have a baby, you change. But you don’t change that much. You don’t stop loving your job or believing in what you do (or did). For example, if you are in a caring profession, like nursing or teaching, you don’t simply stop caring about the people you work with. If you were passionate about your job in the first place, you’ll find that passion is a pretty tenacious thing.
 
 

 
               ·       We never question our decision.

But we do, and that’s the hard bit. When your work availability or level of commitment is limited, you will necessarily miss out on some opportunities, and you have to be okay with that. When it happens, you’ll be just as gutted as the working mums are when they can’t take the day off for their child’s birthday.

 

·       Don’t make friends with us on Facebook as we’ll clog your news feed with endless boring pictures of our kids eating, sleeping and sitting on the potty.

I promise we (try to) only post the good/funny ones. Trust me, if posted every picture I took of my child, I’d break the internet.

 

·       We think we are better mothers than the working mothers.

Of all the untruths, this is the most untrue. My ability to admire a working mother and recognise the sacrifices she makes is not diminished by the hours I spend at home wiping yoghurt off the ceiling. Being at home instead of out earning doesn’t give you a sense of superiority, in fact it does quite the opposite. I can’t speak for others, but despite having side-lined my career, my constant doubt about whether I am a good mother remains indestructible.

 

·       We won’t want to go out for Friday night drinks.

      No, no. We do. Just let me get my coat.

·       Our houses are immaculate.

Sure, if you come round to my house, your eyes will meet a moderately clean and tidy scene. But that’s only because I knew you were coming and I’ve just spent two frantic, sweaty hours hovering up dog hair, scrubbing dried-up spaghetti bolognaise off the kitchen chairs and trying to find somewhere to stash that pile of crap that seems to grow when I’m not looking, all whilst watching the clock and having full-on palpitations.
 
 

 

·       We’re permanently smiling Stepford Wives who always have a delicious hot supper waiting for our husbands as soon as they arrive home.

Bathing the baby with one hand whilst dialling for pizza with another is a more likely scenario.

 

·       We know every episode of Ben and Holly’s Little Kingdom off by heart.

Okay, I’ll admit it. That one’s true.
 
Joanna Voss Allsop

 

 

Thursday, 28 January 2016

Our Best New Books

Our Best New Books

Father Christmas must know how much we love reading because we got looooaaaaaads of new books for Christmas! They’re all lovely, of course, but there are a few that stand out as being special; modern classics that we will treasure forever. So to give you some inspiration for the new books you and your little ones need in your life, here are our top five:

1.  Helen Stephens, How to Hide a Lion.

When a friendly lion is chased out of town by terrified locals, he finds an unlikely friend in Iris, a little girl who decides to hide the lion in her house. This beautiful book depicts the relationship between child and beast in a manner reminiscent of The Tiger Who Came to Tea (one of our all-time faves) and the vintage-style illustrations are so old-fashionedly gorgeous that I was surprised that this was published in 2012. If you love the innocent charm of Judith Kerr’s books then this is for you. There’s a serious message here, about not making negative judgements and getting to know people before you, you know, chase them out of town with a pitchfork, but the story is so much fun that your little one will want to hear it again and again (and again and again).

2.  Usborne Books, The Story of Coppelia.

Forget those horrible, tinny-sounding “musical” books that you have to hide from your children because the sound drives you crazy. The music in this book, whilst not quite MP3 quality, still manages to sound beautiful because the publishers have used real orchestra recordings. The book tells the story of Coppelia simply, with bright, bold illustrations that children will enjoy, but it’s the music that takes centre stage. Watching Amelia dance to the ballet music was heart-melting, even on a hungover Boxing Day. If there’s a place in your heart that loves ballet, beautiful music, or both, then you will adore this (and you might even play with it yourself when the kids are in bed).

3.  Julia Donaldson, Stick Man.

Whether it was the BBC screening of Stick Man on Christmas Eve, or whether it is just the fact that Father Christmas makes an appearance, I don’t know; but Amelia is obsessed with this book and asks for it nearly every night. Every time we go out for a walk, she’ll find a stick and yell, “Look! Stick Man!” The story of Stickman’s struggle to be reunited with his family is genuinely emotional. At the part where he is woven into a swan’s nest, Millie always frowns and says, “Poor Stick Man.” This is a good thing; she’s learning empathy. The repetition, “I’m Stick Man, I’m Stick Man, that’s me!” delights toddlers who will love to join in with it. And the association with Christmas makes this book extra special.

4.  Julia Donaldson, Hide and Seek Pig.

This book was supposed to be a present for someone else, but Amelia found my not-very-well-hidden present box and claimed this as her own. In a way I’m glad it happened, because this is one of the most child-engaging books we’ve ever had. Little readers get to open gates and lift up blankets to find out who is hiding behind them, and they’ll be genuinely thrilled when they “find” Hen at the end. The rhyming couplets are brilliant for building word awareness and memory, and the illustrations are gorgeous. This is just perfect.



5.  Julia Donaldson, Rosie’s Hat.

Little Rosie loses her hat one windy day by the sea. The hat has lots of adventures of its own until years later, by sheer coincidence, it is reunited with grown-up Rose.
Now let me just get one thing straight- I have no problem with pink, I have no issue with princesses, and I deeply love traditional fairy tales and would defend them to the death. That said, I love love love the fact that when Rosie grows up she is a fire-fighter (as well as a wife and mother, if you must know). I do believe that, somewhere between the pink tutus and the sparkly shoes, our daughters need strong role models and although this is only one book in a million books, every little helps.


I realise that three out of these five books are written by Julia Donaldson, and that’s not a deliberate thing. We parents are not the real judges of children’s books, our children are, and I have very much found that the Julia Donaldson books “last” with Amelia; that she keeps going back to them long after the novelty of a new book has worn off. I think, in the end, that that is the measure of a great children’s book…. And I’ll look forward to expanding our already-substantial collection next Christmas.